When to Consider Seeking Therapy: Part 2
You Keep Running Into the Same Problems in Relationships
Have you ever had that moment after yet another conflict, heartbreak, or friendship fallout where you think, “Why does this keep happening to me?” Despite different people and circumstances, the outcome feels eerily familiar. The same emotional wounds keep reopening. The same dynamics play out, again and again.
If you’re feeling stuck in a cycle of difficult, painful, or unsatisfying relationships, romantic or otherwise, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. But it is a sign that something deeper might be worth exploring.
The Patterns Might Look Like...
You constantly attract emotionally unavailable or critical partners
You find yourself being the caretaker, the fixer, or the one who “gives too much”
You have a hard time trusting, opening up, or being vulnerable
You fear being abandoned, but also fear being “too much”
Small disagreements quickly turn into full-blown arguments or cold silence
You feel drained, unappreciated, or never truly seen in your closest relationships
Friendships fade easily or become one-sided
If these patterns sound familiar, you might even blame yourself. Maybe you think you’re just “bad at relationships” or “too sensitive.” Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that lasting, safe connections aren’t for you.
But the truth is, these patterns often have roots in earlier experiences. And therapy can help untangle them.
How Therapy Helps Break the Cycle
Therapy creates space to slow down and look at your relationships with curiosity, not judgment. You’ll begin to notice the emotional habits you’ve been carrying, and where they came from. A therapist helps you ask:
What roles do I play in relationships, and why?
What kinds of people do I feel drawn to and how do they make me feel?
What am I afraid might happen if I ask for what I need?
Do I believe I’m worthy of love without performing or proving?
Over time, therapy helps you:
Build awareness of your relationship patterns
Understand how past wounds influence present dynamics
Learn healthy boundaries and emotional regulation how therapy can help you break free from them.
Develop deeper self-worth and trust in yourself
Cultivate safer, more fulfilling relationships
Next in the Series: Part 3 – Feeling Stuck and Wanting More
We’ll explore that quiet, restless sense of being “on pause” in life — and how therapy can help you reconnect to your direction and drive.
